Adoption is a wonderful gift you can give a child. To take in a child who is not your own, love them, give them everything they need to grow up and lead happy, healthy lives, and to support them throughout their lives is a true blessing. Yet, that doesn’t mean adoption is all hearts and snowflakes. It can be a tumultuous storm at times that you are just struggling to navigate.
AIM Adoptions is a Houston-based adoption agency that endeavors to be a resource for all. We come alongside women who are struggling with an unplanned pregnancy and offer them the support they need, from medical care and financial assistance to housing help and transportation needs. Our Christian-based adoption agency vets potential families to ensure that the babies and children we place go to loving, Christian homes. Below, we’ll offer up tips for adoptive parents on how to deal with questions from both strangers and friends once they discover you’ve adopted your child. Contact us today to learn more!
TIPS TO ANSWER QUESTIONS ABOUT YOUR ADOPTED CHILD
Plan Your Answers Ahead of Time
To be honest, most people are just curious about adoptive parents. After all, it takes a special kind of person who is willing to open their hearts up to children not biologically their own. Still, sometimes these questions come off as rude and invasive. Thus, it’s best to plan your answers out to the most common questions you will receive, and as your child ages, you’ll be so used to answering the same questions over and over again that you won’t have to think much about your responses anymore.
For example, one common question you will most likely receive, especially if your child is of a different skin color than you, is “Where did you get your child from?” While you could easily give a flippant response back, such as “From Mars,” most people are good-intentioned. Instead, you can either be truthful, say China, for example, or you can be Biblical, and say “God,” or you can say “From this adoption agency.”
When your baby is crying and someone is asking you questions, they are just trying to be friendly for the most part. Plan ahead, and you won’t be so stressed.
Choose to Not Answer
For some people, it’s easier to respond with the same answer to every question, such as “It’s a personal matter” and leave it at that. Not only does this usually end the 20 questions before it begins, but it does help you maintain your privacy, especially if it is a stranger asking. Another solution is to use this when you are in a rush or not in the mood for the 20 questions. Many adoptive parents love to talk about their new baby; however, at the doctor’s office in the waiting room when your baby is running a fever is perhaps not the best time for someone else to engage you in conversation when you are worried sick about your baby. AIM Adoptions reminds you that it is okay to not answer questions when asked.
Decide Ahead of Time to Be Pragmatic or Rude Back
This tip can be a bit harder to implement, especially when sometimes, despite your best laid answers, rude ones come out. Some adoptive parents have stock sarcastic answers ready. For example, when asked “How much did your adoption cost?” (which is rude since there is no price tag on a child), you can answer with a flippant answer “She was free,” or “I paid $1,” or you can make the person feel bad for asking, such as telling them flat out that there’s no price tag on children. AIM Adoptions recognized that answering questions about adoption can get old, especially if you are asked all the time, but there’s a kind-hearted way to answer and a not-so-kind-hearted way. The choice is ultimately yours.
HOW AIM ADOPTIONS CAN HELP WITH YOUR ADOPTING A CHILD
Adopting a child is perhaps one of the most selfless acts you will ever do. You are committing to a lifetime of care for a child that is of no relation. People will ask questions and possibly even rude questions. There will come a time when your baby is a toddler, a preschooler, a preteen, a teenager, and a young adult. They will hear these questions others ask and remember your answers. How do you want them to remember your responses?
AIM Adoptions is an adoption agency in Houston, TX. We believe all children are gifts from God, even the unwanted ones. We strive to not only make birth mothers understand that it’s okay to be where they are at with their feelings and to give the baby they are carrying life in the arms of another family. We offer supportive services to the birth mothers who partner with us in this difficult time in their lives. In addition, we do our best to find amazing parents who are willing and ready to open their hearts and homes to these unplanned babies. We encourage you to reach out to us if you are considering adopting a child. We offer both open and closed adoptions, but do recognize that some types of open adoptions are much more the norm these days, and we do offer an open adoption option to every birth mother we work with. While we can’t guarantee a wait time for a child once you are approved, you will increase your chances by being more open about what you are seeking in an adoption.
AIM Adoptions is a non-profit who has dedicated our lives to helping unplanned babies find homes. We answer our phones 24 hours a day because we know that when you have a question concerning an unwanted pregnancy of adoption, sometimes it can’t wait. We invite you to visit our website. There, you will find a plethora of adoption information, including specific questions related to how our Christian adoption agency works and our adoption requirements. Contact us today to adopt a child in Texas!