Thank you for taking the time to check out all of the
information in our website. We are constantly changing
and adding...so if adoption is something that you are
considering for your child, you might add us as one
of your favorites. You can never get too much information!
I am writing this letter because I have two granddaughters
and one grandson who have loving homes because someone
cared enough to help my family when we were faced with
making choices for these precious gifts from God. In
addition, I dearly love ten women who gave birth to
my children and then chose me to be their mother. They
are truly special women and I work for AIM to give back
to the community of women who are faced with making
a plan for their child's future through adoption.
We don't believe that any mother wants to give up a baby for adoption.
The mothers that we work with know that they are not giving up their baby.
They are making a plan for their baby's life that will provide their child the most secure life possible.
People who do not understand will often say that a mother is giving up a baby or even giving away a baby.
We work hard in the community to educate others about the steps a mother takes while planning adoption for her baby.
While you look at our website, try to eliminate the words "giving up a baby for adoption" and try to imagine the love all mothers feel for their child...
even mothers who are in a position to have to look at all options available to her.
A.I.M. was opened in 1984 because we wanted to treat
adoption as it should be...a way to build a family.
We feel that this works from every point of the adoption
triad, not just the adoptive family, because you are
not looking for somewhere to "give away" you
child. No, you are trying to build a relationship of
trust and love where you can feel safe with choices
you make for your child. You want to build a family
that will be stable and provide security for your child...while
possibly establishing an extended family relationship
That's our goal, too. We are birthmothers, bio-grandparents,
adoptive mothers, and even adult adoptees who have experienced
all that adoption has to offer in our own lives. We
have a common goal to help build families of adoption
that are jointly connected to each other. The core family
is, of course, the adoptive family. They have the responsibility
of providing a safe, loving, secure life for the child.
The extended family is the birth family. The birth family
has the responsibility of making the first decision,
knowing that they will not be a day-to-day participant
in the child's life. The child connects the two families
because he or she is a permanent part of both families.
While not growing up in the biological home, he or she
often needs information about his or her orginal home
in order to develop his individuality. This need can
only be provided by you.
Occasionally, a birth mom may decide that she does
not want information beyond the initial family profile.
Some moms choose to have no information. The choice
is entirely yours. If you choose minimal or no contact
with the adoptive family, you can still be a resource
for your child's questions. We have two forms that you
will complete for your child. The forms provide medical,
genetic, educational, and social information about his
biological families. You also have the option to continue
providing lifelong information to the agency which can
be shared with the adoptive family and your child.
Adoption is not the right choice for every birth family,
but because it has been a blessing to the lives of this
staff...we want to be there to help you make decisions
you can live with when planning adoption. We do this
from our heart. No pressure. No judgement. Just sensitive,