How adoption works – birthmothers

Understanding the Adoption Process

Step 1: Contact Us

Because of your interest in adoption, the agency has information packets which can be made available to you.at no obligation. You may request one by phone (1800-776-6508) or by E-mail at mmiller@aimadoptions.org .

When you receive this information packet, please look over all of the materials provided. Be sure to examine the information thoroughly. We encourage you to ask questions. You will not be pressured by anyone at the agency to make a hasty ill-informed decision.

Step 2: Make a new friend

If you should decide AIM is the agency that will best meet your needs, you will be assigned a caseworker. You will have access to your caseworker 24-7 through her cell phone number which will be given you at the time that you make a commitment to work with our agency. The cell phone is set up to receive E-mail, Alpha Messages, and numeric messages.

We ask that non-emergency needs be handled during reasonable waking hours whenever possible. All urgent/emergency requests will be dealt with immediately while non-urgent requests may be scheduled for a time convenient to the caseworker and you.

If you have any problem reaching your caseworker, please dial the regular office line (281-821-6508). A staff person, who will assist you in locating the caseworker, answers this line 24 hours a day. 

Step 3: Your initial interview

Although adoption is a very loving option for young women finding themselves in a crisis situation, other alternatives must be looked at to make sure that the best plan is made for the child.

During your initial interview with AIM, you will be assigned a qualified counselor; Counseling is an important part of your plan. You and your counselor will discuss options besides adoption, such as: parenting your child with resources offered through TDFPS (food stamps, AFDC, Medicaid, HUD housing, etc.), family members to assist you in parenting, seeking the biological father as resource for support and assistance to you and your child, etc.

If you should complete an adoption for your child, post-adoption counseling is encouraged and available for an indefinite period free of charge to you.

AIM has several books and pamphlets to assist you with understanding the adoption process as well as helping you customize an adoption plan to meet your particular needs. Please ask your counselor about materials that would be helpful to your individual situation.

 

Step 4: Customize your adoption plan

Adoption in the 21st century is very different from those adoptions that occurred during the time your parents were growing up. AIM still offers closed adoptions for biological families who prefer them; however, the majority of today’s adoptions are “open.”

Open adoptions offer a variety of information-sharing and communication between the biological family and the adoptive family. There are no limits to the possibilities. Each open adoption is tailor-made to meet the needs of all three of the triad members: the biological family, the adoptive family and the child.

Your counselor and our Family Service Director will be able to help you work out a plan that will be comfortable.

It is believed that openness will diminish the need for adopted children to search for their biological families because ongoing contact will always provide an avenue for contact at an appropriate time.

All legal matters will be addressed during your first counseling session. At that time, you will be given a sample copy of all legal documents that will be signed to complete an adoption.

You will be asked to sign a receipt documenting we have given this information to you and instructed you to seek whatever advise is available to you to understand the documents.

Our attorney is also available to interpret the documents. You will be informed about the legal status of your case as it progresses. 

 

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